Why do people get married? In the fourth instalment of the popular Ex-Files rom-com franchise,The Ex-Files 4: Marriage Plan (前任4：英年早婚, qiánrèn 4: yīngnián zǎohūn) the guys are beginning to feel their age and settling down is now it seems on the cards but for Meng Yun (Han Geng) at least it’s not so simple despite receiving some unexpected medical news that undermines his sense of youth and masculinity. As a single urbanite, he’s become set in his ways and used to living alone while haunted by the spectres of old love and missed opportunities.
Yu Fei (Zheng Kai) meanwhile has been somewhat bamboozled into proposing to his slightly younger girlfriend of three years Ding Dian (Zeng Mengxue) who is herself on the fence about the idea of marriage. The couple end up opting for what they describe as a “marriage cooling off period” but is really just a trial run while they figure out if they can actually live together. To begin with it’s more difficult than expected as both struggle to transition from “dating” to “settled”, each on their best behaviour at home and engaged in a constant game of oneupmanship over household chores trying to prove how considerate they are to each other which is as they begin to realise exhausting. But deciding to just be themselves doesn’t quite work either as they quickly descend into slobbishness with no one taking care of domestic tasks each assuming it’s the other’s responsibility.
To try and work out their differences they come up with a solution that’s both very mature and not in turning their family meetings into drinking games in which the person who recognises they’re in the wrong has to take a shot. The kinds of things they argue about are the usual points of tension like leaving the cap off the toothpaste or waiting too long to wash your smalls, though before long more serious cracks start to appear such as in their different approaches to money management with Ding Dian keen to set up a household joint account and Yu Wei resentful of what he sees as an intrusion into his financial freedom in order to force him to be more responsible about his spending.
It’s this idea of “freedom” that seems to be keeping the guys from settling down, but as someone later says to Meng Yun it might be his desire for “freedom” that’s holding him back. An ageing Casanova, Meng Yun is hounded by his mother about getting married while otherwise lamenting his descent into solitude and acknowledging that he may now be so afraid of a return to loneliness following a breakup or else a change in his routine that he’s losing interest in starting new relationships which is one reason he’s badgered into blind dates with women looking to get married. He’s not sure if marriage really is the “tomb of love” as some describe it, but can’t see what the point is or why it’s any different to being in a longterm committed relationship without a certificate to prove it.
In many ways his battle is with looming middle age as he begins to wonder if he’s too old to change his ways and if solitude is what he’s choosing for the rest of his life, while Yu Wei conversely wrestles with the demands of adult responsibility in learning to accept a little more give and take in his life. The film flirts with the idea that Meng Yun may get back together with one of his many exes, in particular Lin Jia (Kelly Yu Wenwen) who seems to be the one that got away, but refreshingly falls back on the idea that some things aren’t meant to last and it’s better to let them go. Meanwhile, Meng Yun is himself a little sexist and chauvinistic in his dealings with his many blind dates, failing to consider the woman he’s talking to may be a doctor rather than a patient rushing out to meet him after undergoing major surgery and hurt after being rejected out of hand for his educational background and financial profile despite doing more or less the same thing himself scrolling past women who don’t match his ideals.
Both men are in many ways selfish and immature, but also becoming more aware of their flaws and on opposite sides of the fence when it comes to the possibility of change. Despite having met a potential soulmate in philosophical lawyer Liu Liu, Meng Yun can’t decide if it’s worth the risk of abandoning his solitude or if he’ll ever be able to give up the ghost of lost love and open himself to a greater emotional intimacy. A little more melancholy than previous instalments, the film ponders urban loneliness and the trade-offs involved in a life of “freedom” while leaving the door ajar for middle-aged love in the life of the increasingly lovelorn Meng Yun.
The Ex-Files 4: Marriage Plan is currently previewing in UK cinemas ahead of a 6th October opening courtesy of CineAsia.
International trailer (English subtitles)
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